Perceptions Matter ...How are
American evangelical Christians perceived by nonbelievers? Should we care?
For many nonbelievers, Christians are the greatest single
obstacle to Christian belief. We are genuinely offensive to them -- sometimes this is because of their biases, often it is because of their experiences.
There is little about our contact with nonbelievers that they would readily affirm as life enhancing and a beacon of goodness. Instead, we are avoided at all costs.
We tend to put off those who found Christ most attractive, and appeal to those who
Christ most commonly criticized: somehow we have gotten it backwards. Peter asks, "Who is going to harm you if you are eager to do good?"
(1 Peter 3:13) We need to take an honest look at our perception problem. Christians cannot expect widespread cultural influence until we change the general opinion nonbelievers have of us.
We need to pay close attention to how we are stereotyped. Of course, these stereotypes are unfair. Obviously, there are exceptions. However, the blame game gets us nowhere, and teaches no lessons.
Until Christians face up to how we are perceived, and
address the failures for which we alone are responsible, our neighbors will have few reasons to heed our lives and little motive to listen to our words.If we are ever to convince another person about the rightness of our position, we must first seek common ground. This was Paul's strategy in his address on Mars Hill. We share a common humanity with every other person.
The Manichean impulse to see reality in black and white terms fails to reflect either the depth of sin or the extent of grace. The media prefers polarities -- stark contrasts, simplistically positioned against one another. We do well to avoid situations where the nature of the medium makes finding common ground unlikely. It is far better to share a cup of coffee with a person with whom we disagree, than to put ourselves into a public debate with him before a live audience.
We will never reach those most in need of the gospel if we position ourselves as their intellectual foil or political enemy. Our methods must be
incarnational as well as our theology. We must be "with" and "along side", instead of "against" or "opposed to", if we are to model Jesus to others.
If we are ever to convince another person about the rightness of our position, we must first accept disagreement without a judgemental attitude. As soon as we resort to judgment in tone, words, or deeds, we close the opportunity for influence. As Jesus clearly outlined, judgment reaps only judgment
(Matthew 7:1-5).
We would do far better to always speak of those with whom we disagree as if he or she were in our immediate presence. When we speak in the abstract or to our own constituency, we do little to further mutual understanding.
Those who speak harshly about persons who are involved in homosexual behavior, for example, would do well to befriend such a person.
Having a name and a face in mind does much to moderate one's rhetoric.We must learn to disagree agreeably ....
(Selections from the article "Preconditions of Cultural Influence" by David John Seel, Jr.)